You realize childhood trauma has affected you in a lot of ways you didn’t notice before.
Not very many people know what you’ve experienced. You feel ashamed and uncomfortable about it. This, despite knowing you’d never judge anyone else for what they’ve been through. But that’s what childhood trauma can do. It can keep you bound to secrets that aren’t yours to keep.
What happened to you isn’t your fault.
Sometimes you think what happened “wasn’t that bad” but deep down you feel like it was “that bad.” If it was a lot of emotional trauma and you couldn’t see the bruises on the outside, it might make you feel bad to even feel bad about it at all!
But it wasn’t ok for you to have to parent your parents, watch them fight, take care of your siblings like a second parent, feel lonely in a house filled with people, and have no one to confide in when things happened to you. You didn’t deserve this.
Childhood trauma made you have to raise yourself which was no easy feat.
You were a curious, sensitive, compassionate child.
The child who was light-hearted and kind. A curious child who always wanted to know “why?” But you were also sensitive. You realize now you lived in an environment where this couldn’t possibly be nurtured and it hurt you.
You’re still trying to please others around you, make them smile. You feel like you’re still having to keep up with the role you had in your family.
It was common for you to constantly feel like you were tiptoeing around, reading a parent’s mood, and living in often, unspoken patterns of everyday life.
Feeling the human touch of love, witnessing a soft smile or extended arms reaching out for you was rare because it just didn’t happen during your childhood.
How Childhood Trauma Affected You as a Teen
You always thought the way you were treated growing up was normal. Everything you went through had to be the same for others. It wasn’t until you started getting older that you realized your friends didn’t have the same experiences you did.
This made you want to get away from it all. You thought about ways to get away and sometimes you did by rebelling or running away from home. Spending as much time as you could with others-friends and their families, neighbors, teachers, or a trusted relative was something you did as often as you could.
What you didn’t realize is you were already a cycle breaker.
Effects of Childhood Trauma on You
By all accounts, you’ve made it. All on your own. You’re a successful professional, a loving mother, a thoughtful friend, a supportive spouse or partner. But you didn’t come away from your childhood unscathed. The pain from the past keeps you from living the life you’ve earned and worked hard for, in peace and with joy.
You’ve noticed you try to avoid negative emotions at all costs-sadness, anxiety, anger, stress. This because when you experience any emotion as a sensitive woman, you feel everything more deeply whether positive or negative.
To avoid feeling anything negative, you might stay as busy as possible or distracted, do more mindless eating, exercise to the point of exhaustion, stay super focused on your children or work. Anything to restore a sense of balance. But if you hold up a mirror, you can see and feel the sadness, anxiety, and drain of energy, just from avoiding having to feel certain feelings or thinking about the past.
You still try to keep that smile on your face and make others feel happy. It’s sometimes difficult to maintain boundaries and you may struggle with trying to be the perfect mother, friend, partner, spouse, or professional. This proves to be exhausting.
Anxiety has a way of stealing your light.
You worry about so much. When you finally feel like you’re not worrying about something, there’s something else that you start worrying about.
What you worry about most is how what you’re going through may affect your own children or your relationship. Your children are the most important humans in your life and you want the best for them. You don’t want them to go through what you went through and you don’t want your experience to affect them in any way.
How Can Childhood Trauma Therapy Help?
You don’t have to stay trapped in the wounds of childhood trauma or continue going through the motions of every day life without any authentic joy.
Earth-shattering events that are out of your control have happened to you but from this, you can experience growth and transformation if you’re willing to engage in working through the difficult parts.
We’ll work together to break down and understand why it’s been so hard for you, identify old feelings, recognize they’re there, and release them through specialized trauma therapy. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to deal with this and clear a path towards freedom and peace from the past.
It’s ok to let go of this now.
Understanding patterns are here because of what happened in childhood and how these patterns can change by caring for yourself without judgment; dropping unrealistic expectations of yourself; quieting the harshness of your inner critic; and creating new, healthier patterns for yourself will be key in our work together.
The respect for the resilience you had as a child, grieving what you may have lost, transforming the trauma into healing, and importance of doing the work for yourself starts when you’re ready.
Start childhood trauma therapy for women in New Braunfels, Austin, and San Antonio by scheduling a consult today!
Other Counseling Services at Counseling Associates of New Braunfels, PLLC
Childhood Trauma Therapy for Women isn’t the only service we offer at our Online Counseling Clinic in Texas. Other mental health services Counseling Associates of New Braunfels, PLLC provides includes Anxiety Treatment, Counseling for Healthy Boundary Setting, Therapy for Perfectionism, PTSD and Trauma Treatment for Women, and EMDR Therapy.
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